What single men really think about Chicks with Kids and Marriage
Candid opinions about the typical single male without kids perspective on Women with kids. This is what men are thinking when dating a lady with Children. Why should men get married? Whats my motivation?
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With that established….we can advance to something more….bigger than me ALONE. Thats why after the marriage…..the REAL WORK begins. Thats grown stuff, REAL TALK…and I never mentioned Jesus in this….lol. LMAO, I love you baby for responding. Sorry for the long response. Hope it makes sense to you. Peace.
Think of it this way, I wouldnt put $1000s into a car that I didnt have papers on….AND PLAN TO KEEP! I wouldnt show up to a job and offer my energy, time and ideas to a company that I was not officially hired with (sign on the dotted line). Those papers are the foundation for a long term plan, for security, and for acknowledgement by the world that I represent her and she represents me! ….and I have RELATIONSHIP with this woman whom I love.
But marriage comes about to advance the relationship to an INSTITUTION from which NEW life, NEW finance, MORE charity, AND community grows. We as black people especially need to get that point. If we did, we would be more selective about the one we choose to marry and have babies with.
Marriage is a PERSONAL GOAL every bride or groom should have for him or her self…..not to “prove that love is true.” That should be clear before any vows.
So if you only go after the “advantage” and not “advancement”…. you simply are not marriage minded. And a lot of divorced people never really were, but married anyway. Its not meant to be romantic and show her that you love her….if thats all she wants out of it….RUN! She’s too immature to really be the kind of wife that supports you and the goals and aspirations you will have for yourself and your family. If thats how she sees it or how YOU see it, you’re not really marriage minded….
Thank you sooo much for responding. I appreciate what yor’re saying. I really am not trying to go biblical with it. I’m simply saying that I don’t think marriage should be an issue of “advantage”…..instead, its “advancement”. Moving to on to place in your life where you are ready to invest your heart, you love, your time, you life’s plan, your income, even your own desires (at times) in an effort to achieve something bigger than you in life. Marriage is a lot of compromise and sacrafice…
I still don’t understand your advantages you are trying to illustrate.From what I gather from your post, your describing biblical obligation”Its a commitment to God first and realizing that its your spouse that will allow…”
and living and building and leaving this world better than you found it”
biblical obligation doesn’t jive with me because if I love someone,why would I have to enter a legally binding contract to show my lady that my love is true.
Amazing how clear the view is when you are on your back. What are the advantages of marriage? Its not even a comparison worth making. Either you want more, or you don’t. To each his own…..or none.
I have been working in nursing homes with dying men for over 10 years. Many rich old lonely men have told me how much they hated that they never settled down and made a family for themselves. Not a single poor man with his loved ones around him has ever told me how much he hated that he didn’t have one more car or house or woman.
Marriage isn’t a better way to live a single man’s life or with a single man’s mentality. Thats whats put us at a 50-60% divorce rate. You can’t be all about YOU AND READY FOR MARRIAGE….the two don’t go together. Its about when you realize that life HAS TO BE ABOUT MORE that just the next weekend party, the next piece of ass, the next new ride, the next thousand in the bank….its when you want more and are willing to SACRAFICE to have it. Many will never reach that level of manhood.
Advantages to getting married have nothing to do with income. And a man who only knows or understands monetary value will be stuck right there and does not belong in a marriage. Marriage and its advantages have to do with the process of living, building, and leaving this world better than you came into it. Its a commitment to God first and realizing that its your spouse that will allow you to live the life God has for you in its truest since of abundance.
Maybe,but not this man<<
thanks for the laughter
You are right, the guy that leaves is worse than his single mother counter part. But in this vid , Im not comparing the two, I am only stating the opinions of a man with no kids perspective on dating women with kids. I m not saying a dude who has kids is a more viable dating prospect,and it is certainly ok for the him to be rejected because he has kids. That would be the personal opinion of the chick he is dating.I appreciate your feedback on this issue and i thank you for responding. Blessings
Should men be held to the same standard? Meaning that, if a man has children (whether he has custody or not) then it’s OK for a woman to REJECT him based on that, right??? Especially men who make babies, then disappear. Seems to me they are much WORSE than any single mother.
So your saying men should want all the pleasures of a woman WITHOUT marriage, and then you turn around REJECT single women with children? That’s a gross contradiction. These PLEASURES from women you meet at bars mixed with these anti-marriage attitudes often lead to these CHILDREN that men like you don’t want to deal with. So whose fault is that? 50% the mans!
I’m about to turn 27, have no children, and love every minute of it. At my age, good luck finding a woman without children.
The single guy making 80 is way ahead because he doesn’t have to spend money on a woman.
While men are made fun of all the time for not having their places filled with little knick nacks etc men have a much better ability to say “I don’t need that.”